The cost of following Jesus is death.
We have to die to ourselves, to our hopes, our dreams, our plans, our future. And we must live in and through Christ. Galatians 2:20 says, "I have been crucified with Christ. It is mo longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me..."
This means that Christ determines everything about us.
Christ's hopes are our hopes.
Christ's dreams are our dreams.
Christ's plans are our plans.
Jesus is everything. everything.